By Nancy Oelklaus, Ed. D.

It’s good to know what you’re willing to experience. Recently a client said, “I have fear all the time. I worry all the time.” My response was, “I believe you. Would you like for things to be different?” Of course, she said yes. No one wants to live in fear and worry all the time. If that is happening, it’s a learned behavior. Intervention is needed, and I gave it.

“All you have to do is be willing to make a change” was what I said. And I left it at that.

To our next coaching session, this person brought a book, dog-eared and heavily underlined. From the book she read to me what she needed to do differently. I took notes, integrating her new learning into the plan we had already begun to make.

Her energy had shifted. In our earlier sessions, she was playing the role of victim, with one story after another about how other people had wronged her. But in this session, she had taken responsibility for making things better. She had become a Wayfinder.

Wayfinding is navigating through complex environments to reach a dreamed-of destination. It’s setting out for unknown territory, using tools that have the power to get you where you want to be. http://pvs.kcc.hawaii.edu/rapanui/nainoa.html

If you have a dreamed-of destination that you don’t think you’re making progress towards, simply become willing to change whatever you need to change to move you closer towards your dream, and say goodbye to stagnation.

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